If Someone Does Not Approach You, Does That Mean They’re Not Romantically Interested?
There could be a million reasons why someone is interested in you and does not approach you. Some people may believe that if someone is truly interested then they will take the initiative. However, that belief is not applicable to all people. Everyone is unique. Some people may not approach you for internal reasons even though they are interested. One reason may be because they are too shy. Another reason could be the fear of rejection. They may be interested in approaching you, but they are afraid you will reject them and that will prevent them from approaching you in the first place. Another reason may be because they think you are not interested. They may respect your space and not want to bother you. In that case they have misread your signals.
It is important to give the right signals to people so they will know if you are interested or not. If you approach someone who does not want to be approached, it may be awkward for both of you. If you read the signals correctly, you can know in advance whether you should proceed or not.
Even if someone is interested in you, they may have other priorities in their life that will override their interest and they may not want to approach you for those reasons. It may not be because of anything that you have done wrong, it may be due to something else that they have going on. For example they could be very busy with their work. If they have a lot of responsibilities in the office, they may not have time for dating. They may prioritize their career over their romantic life.
Whether you are a man or a woman, it can be frustrating to wait for people to make the first move and initiate. If you really like someone, and you have seen the right signals from them, then you should just make the first move and initiate. Of course if they have told you that they are not interested, or if they have indicated it to you without explicitly saying so, then you should just forget them and move on to someone else. Do not waste time on someone if they are not interested in you, you will be able to find someone else who is interested in you.
If you are always passive and waiting for other people to initiate, then you may be waiting for a long time. It is true that it takes a lot of courage to talk to someone even if you are not 100% sure what they’re thinking. However, regardless of the outcome, you can learn a lot just by trying.
Even if someone shows interest and responds positively to you, that does not mean it will work out in the long run or even a short run. If someone never replies to your messages or initiates making plans later, then they may not be the right one for you.
One of the main reasons why people may not want to initiate and make a move on someone that they’re interested in is the fear of rejection. Rejection can be very painful even though it is not physically damaging like breaking your leg, it is very painful psychologically. Some people would rather be alone rather than make a move because they’re afraid if they make a move the rejection could be too painful. You may think one thing in your mind logically, but your emotions can override that feeling. If you haven’t been rejected in the past, then that may also influence your future behavior.
Insecurity can be another reason why people are afraid of making moves to ask someone on a date. People may have low self-esteem or negative self images. Due to the problems that they have, they might think that they are unworthy of other people loving them. Do not get caught in these negative thoughts. If you are dealing with these issues, it may be better for you to work on yourself first before worrying about approaching other people for starting relationships.
Just because you approach someone, it doesn’t mean that you want to marry them or even be in a relationship with them. It just means that you may be interested in finding out more about them. You can start by being friends with them. Even if you do not date them, you may find a new friend.
It is inevitable that there will be rejections at some point. Everyone gets rejected at some point. Even in non-romantic ways, if you apply for a job, you could be rejected. Rejection is a normal part of life. Going through some rejections every now and then can be healthy.
If both people are afraid of rejection and do not approach, then they are thinking the same thing but neither of them will actually take the initiative and the potential will be lost. This is a very spiritual thing. You will never know if it has the potential to be reciprocated if you do not try.
If you are interested in someone, there is nothing you have to lose by approaching them as long as they are giving you the right signals that they want to be approached. Even if it does not result in anything, you can always move on. If you want to progress as a person, then you will have to take the initiative sometimes.